chacha asked:


hi. so i have been dating my boyfriend lets call him bob for a year and 3 months. ive always trusted him, even though majority of the people he talked to besides me where girls. well hes been in the army for about 6 months, ive gotten to see him a few times since. he claims hes in love with me so much and yada yada yada…and i do too,more than anything and i dont want to lose him, which is why i’ve come here. a while back he had given me his facebook password when he was not able to get online, well i still have his password and he has not changed it. well ive never been one to snoop, but i really felt like something was up, but ive been going through so many emotions lately i thought maybe i was just being paranoid, but i needed some solid reassurance, so i logged on to his facebook, really the only reason i got on there is because i knew he was messaging this girl i didnt like, and he knows i dont like her, btw im very open to him about my feelings, i always tell him wuts on my mind, i just wish he’d do the same for me, but anyways, so i got on and went read their messages, needless to say i was not happy with the message, i mean it wasnt serious, it was just stuff like i miss you and blah blah blah, but then i happen to see another message from another girl, i didn’t think anything of it, but you know what they say, curiosity kills the cat. so i read it. i found out it was one of his ex’s. well she had made a comment that she was cold and for him to make her warm, then bob’s response was get a blanket and company, she said i got the blanket but no company, and bob says ok well next time we hang out and she was like you would do that and he said i guess, and she said only if you want to and he said he wanted to and then eventually she was like how could you keep me warm and he was like cuddle or ***? well then later they were talking about valentines day and bob said he’d rather be single on valentines day…so im pretty upset about this and also the fact that not once did he mention me..so my problem now is how to approach this, i know i was wrong for snooping, but its not like i made it a habit, it was one time, but he was wrong too..but i honestly would rather discuss it in person, but i may not see him again til around easter, but the longer i wait the worse it will get, and i cant pretend to be happy anymore, so im open for any advice

kisses come in fives asked:

I had always moved around alot when I was a child
and I have always had an easy time making new friends when I moved as a child
however
once I got alittle older, everything changed
I still move around alot
but I never seem to make new friends

right now, I can honestly say, the last time I was in the presence of a friend was three years ago…on my 18 birthday
I moved on my birthday, and I haven’t been able to make new friends ever since

now I’m married and I’m having a baby
my husband is in the military, and he has alot of friends in his platoon
he hangs out with them every couple weeks
I on the other hand…I am a stay at home wife and student, about to be a mother…
I have no way of making friends since I don’t work and my classes are online
all of my neighboors are hispanic and I have yet to find one who speaks english (and I don’t speak spanish well enough to hold up a conversation)
…I even tried to fit in with the other army wives who live on base, but that is difficult because my husband and I have an apartment off base and the other army wives are all very clicky…I’ve never felt so alone

My husband is a wonderful man
a great support through everything- he helps me study for school, he has been amazing with attending all my birthing classes with me and helping prepare the nursery, he makes sure I get out of the house often…but he’s my only human companion, my only family AND my only friend…I feel as if I need a girl friend, someone outside my marriage, the way that he has his army buddies

I keep in contact with my old friends via phone and letters
but they all live about 20 hours away from where I live now

I don’t have any family-
my mother left when I was a year old
and the state took me away from my father when I was 14 because he was abusive

I cry all the time
I try to fill the void by keeping busy:
I bake from scratch, I sew blankets for my baby’s nursery…
I have 5 very spoiled pets (we adopt special needs animals since I have the time of day to spend with them)

what should I do?
I’m so desperate for companionship…yet the last time I remember being with a friend was three years ago…
I even got into therapy because the loneliness is causing a depression…
my therapist seems to think that I don’t need therapy-
she says I just need to feel more confident about myself, less shy
and that I need to make new friends…although she says she understands why its so hard for me to make friends, the situation doesn’t give me many oppurtunities to meet new people

I was thinking that I would join some mommy-and-me type classes after my baby was born and that might help me to meet other young moms with similar interests…but I’m scared that will end up the same way all my other attempts to make new friends ended up (like when I tried volunteering at the humane society and no one would talk to me…)

I’m so lonely and so depressed…I just look in the mirror and think to myself “how pathetic”

Kay_bug_2008 asked:

Ok, Christmas is right around the corner,and I was wanting to get my best guy friend something. He is in the Army,and he going off to college in January. So I wanted to get him something with meaning[Not girlfriend meaning] but something that will mean alot to him. My Ideas so far was to get a blanket with his name on it,and possibly some army symbols or something to deal with the army.[There is meaning to why I wanted the blanket, just not some random choice ] but I still cant decide if it s good gift choice or not. I would love to hear some opinions one what I should get him. Its hard shopping for guys.