BabiGurl asked:

Hi Everyone,

I really need some advice. My husband always tells me that I annoy him. I could ask him a simple question like “How was your day at work?” and he tells me that I’m annoying him. Or, I might ask him to answer a question that I have or check on something for me…Just anything! And he will say you’re annoying me or I’m busy!!! And the times that he says I’m busy he’s not even doing anything…This is a constant process…we don’t talk anymore and everytime I try talking to him he blows me off. What should I do? He’s in the army and he’s kind of my security blanket right now because I don’t have a job…I don’t wanna leave him because I still love him but I’m not in love with him anymore. I dunno, I know this is a lot…but I just need some great advice as to what I should do.

Thanks:)
Kitty Kat…this goes to you Sweetheart:) Yes, my hubby is putting his life on the line for this country but I have been with him for 6 year putting up with his BS! Ok, he’s in the army…but that doesn’t mean that he can treat me like crap whether I have a job or not!!! You said that you were annoyed by me??? Well, since I annoy you so much how about don’t answer anymore of my questions and keep your stupid insensitive answers to yourself. Have a good day:)
Ok, the second details was a response to Kitty Kat who made a smart remark about my hubby being in the army and I shouldn’t be whining because he puts himself on the line everyday for this country…I just responded to what she said. I try to talk to my husband and he just doesn’t open up…we’ve been together since we were teenagers 16 and 18. When we were younger he would open up a little but it was still emotionless. I’m a stay at home mom ( I should have mentioned that before). We have a 4 year old son…and, we just moved to a new duty station so looking for a job and daycare has been somewhat hard for me. There is so much more to this situation then what i can write in these few paragraphs. And, I know I have my issues (who doesn’t) and I’m not blaming everything on him…it’s just hard to be told that I’m annoying him everyday when all I want is to know how his day went or if he could help me with something.
And, I do still love my husband…the love just isn’t the same like it was when were were teenagers.

Michelle asked:

I am not sure if I’m doing the right thing, or making the right choices. We have all lived together on and off for a year..he and I had a pretty rocky relationship but married in April and got most of our issues straightened out. He is in the Army (active) and I am discovering he is controlling. Well, my daughter had gotten into some trouble,some worse than others.but the latest incident has been her involvement with this 20 yr old boy..we forbid her to see him, and yet I found she had been lying. My husband is constantly snooping through her room to see if she is behaving. When he finds out she has done something wrong, he takes things away, I’m talking EVERYTHING.sometimes things like a blanket she loves, or her Zune, or the internet. I am not sure I agree with everything he is doing, but I am and always have been not so strict. Maybe he is doing the right thing, but I am just a pushover. He is like that w/the younger ones too, and I noticed when his son is here the rules change.