How do I Move Her Out?
Submitted by admin on March 29, 2009 – 10:29 am4 Comments
Verity C asked:
My darling daughter who is 15 months old is still sleeping in a cot in mine and my fiance’s bedroom.
We really want to start getting intimate again and maybe have a child of our own (Kaylyn is my ex bf’s), and obviously it don’t feel right doing while she is there. My Boyfriend is in the Army and so is away some weekends mostly when my daughter is staying with her dadEvery timeime that i put her down in the bed she has in her room scriesrys acriesrys no matter how tired she untilill i finally cant take it any more and bring her back into our room.
Ive made sure that her bed is exactly the same with the same toys and blankets and stuff but doesn’tsnt make adifferencence!
Please Help!!!
It will be tough but you have to put up with the crying.
Might help if you stay in the room with her till she sleeps but never pick up or talk to her.
Don’t give in to her cries..Extremely hard I know. Also put a nighty of yours on the mattress where she lies so that she has your smell near her. Try controlled crying. Each night put her down in the same way but move further and further away from her cot until your finally out the room. It takes about 5 nights or more to get this right. When you go back to her don’t speak just put her back down to sleep. The less talking you do and the less comforting will benefit you in the long run. Eventually she will learn that when she cries you wont pick her up. Its hard but unless you persevere you will end up back with her in your room.
does she have nap in the day if so try putting her down for her nap in her rom and not yours so that she gets used to the room apart from that it is basically puting up with the crying my sister was terrible and had to have the feel of sum1s skin on her before shed go to sleep so we had to stay there with her for hours
To ease the move, there are a number of different strategies that you can try. One first step is to have your toddler get used to sleeping in his crib during naptime. You can also gradually make the transition by first sleeping with him in his own room. Expect some protests about this new sleeping spot, but rest assured that having you nearby will ease the transition. Finally, you can start with just bedtime, having your toddler fall asleep on his own in his own room but bringing him into your bed when he awakens at night. After a couple of weeks, you can take the final step to having him sleep in his own room all night.
Give your toddler plenty of comfort while he makes this transition. Once he’s finally settled in his own room all night, don’t bring your toddler back to your bed — this will only confuse him and send the message that he’ll be rewarded if he cries long and hard enough.
Hope this helps