How do I soothe my 8 month old baby who doesn’t get “her way”?
My 8 month old daugher has become more active lately. She has been army crawling all over the floor.She recently has discovered where all our cords and wires are for the computer and tvs are. I have no way to “hide the cords”. In my effort to keep her out of the cords, I set up a baby gate in our dining room. I put all her toys and blankets in there. That’s the only thing in there. I will sit her in there to play. As soon as I set the baby gate up she begins crying. I only sit about 15 feet from her in the other room. She can see me clearly. I talk to her and sing to her, but nothing quiets her down. The only way she is happy is if she has free roam of the our family room. I can’t let her because she gets into the cords. I’ve started implementing “no” but she just laughs at me. When I let her loose in the family room she doesn’t cry and will play fine by herself.
I need help. What can I do to calm her down so she will play by herself and know that mommy is close.
It may take small does and patience. Try putting her in there for a few minutes at a time and increase the time as she gets more used to it. Or you can just teach her no. You have to keep a nonstop eye on her if you go with teaching her no. If you remove her and say no enough she will eventually get it. Maybe you could get one of those play area gates to put in the room with you so she can still play in your room. Sorry I can’t help more.
What I did was I picked a toy that she really likes, and Keep it hidden and when I put her in her play pen and she starts crying, I take her toy out ( a little egg shaped character with feet and eyes) and say look it’s eggie. She gets so excited and sits and plays. Hope this helps. Good luck!
The only thing that you can do is let her fuss it out. If you try to soothe her yourself then she will not learn and will continue to fuss about it and after a few days she’ll get over it.
Hmm i think let her roam lose.. and when she does touch things she’s not aloud.. say no.. if she continues move her away and say no.. if she continues put her in the play pen for 5 minutes… then just keep repeating it..she’ll soon realise that if she wants to have her freedom she can’t touch things.. *for those out there who think she wont understand.. she will… they understand more than we think*
Its hard distraction seems to work best.
Okay, My little one was very adimant at getting what she wanted—-she would scream for hours if I let her—this is when she was 3—she never got the “terrible two’s” anyway from 3-4 years of age and b-4 that when she wanted to do something that would hurt her, I would let her so her tantrum—hey, it’s okay to be mad, but I don’t have to listen to it—show her/him praise for good behavior only…by letting her/him NOT fussing, and you giving in, they will learn to do it longer and harder as they get older. I have personally dealt with other infants and toddlers where their parents give in—it will just get harder and nastier as they get older. Remember, YOU are the BOSS, if they do not learn how to respect that now, then, they never will–or at least for most “children.” Remeber if you want to have a somewhat peaceful relationship, you have to teach them what you expect early on, and teach them how to follow the rules—otherwise, they can turn into–GOD knows what. If you loose your patience, which you will, Take a time out—go into the next room, but just be sure that they are in a safe environment—it will never hurt the child to cry and throw temper tantrums in a safe environment—–You can turn up the TV, or music, but just make sure that the child IS in a SAFE environment to do what they must do to get it out of their systems—-you will be much happier when they get older—yes, the incidents will change, but, it’s wise to keep the same principle when rearing your child.
I hope that my expierience helped. Good luck–remember to keep to a schedule, and do not let them be the boss, or you will regret it later on.
Frankly at a certain point you really have to ask yourself is the battle worth the reward.
I have my cords in those cord wraps and either burried behind the desk where they can’t be seen, or the tv cords are under the baseboards (I had to remove the quarter round). And duct taped to the wall where they run up to the outlet and the outlet completely blocked off.
15ft is a pretty long way for a baby.
We went through something similar. We have a baby gate which has worked and I section off certain areas when I need to. The way to get the baby to stay in that confined area is to get in there with the baby for a little while, too. THat way they get used to being in there and they feel comfortable because mama is in there, too. Also, if you can let the baby run free, what we do is, close all of the doors to other rooms so that baby is really still confined to a certain space, which I know is clean and he can’t get to anything dangerous.