Comments on: My husband always tells me that I annoy him.what should I do? http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/ ArmyBlanket.com Mon, 14 Feb 2011 12:05:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: unschoolymomma http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-526 unschoolymomma Tue, 01 Sep 2009 10:10:09 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-526 It seems you have been put between a rock and a hard place. I would however when you do get the chance to start thinking about what you can do to better your future by either getting counseling or leaving him in the future. Do you have someone that you can tell that is in charge of him? A lot of times there superior officers will not stand for behavior like that and discipline him and also get him the help he needs. Also did this just start? Has he been deployed in the war? This could cause a lot of these things he is saying. Not excusing him because this is just not right, but might explain stress. Do you have any family that can help you get out of this situation if it doesn't work out? You mostly need to get counseling and he needs to be confronted and be held accountable for what he has said to you. It seems you have been put between a rock and a hard place. I would however when you do get the chance to start thinking about what you can do to better your future by either getting counseling or leaving him in the future.

Do you have someone that you can tell that is in charge of him? A lot of times there superior officers will not stand for behavior like that and discipline him and also get him the help he needs. Also did this just start? Has he been deployed in the war? This could cause a lot of these things he is saying. Not excusing him because this is just not right, but might explain stress.

Do you have any family that can help you get out of this situation if it doesn’t work out?

You mostly need to get counseling and he needs to be confronted and be held accountable for what he has said to you.

]]> By: imarockstar http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-525 imarockstar Sat, 29 Aug 2009 10:58:32 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-525 geesh- reading the additional details, first of all, no one should stay with anyone just because they are a security blanket. maybe he knows you are not in love with him anymore and that would be obvious that ure using him, , and thats why he says you're annoying him. i think maybe you are confused about what you want. i think he should leave you, at first i would have said you leave him, but after i read what you said, it sounds like he should be the one who makes you leave or he should leave you. . and ure marriage has nothing to do with him putting his life on the line for this country. don't try to use that one! you dont even love him anymore. why dont you just move on and quit whining about how he says ure annoying. Good luck. geesh- reading the additional details, first of all, no one should stay with anyone just because they are a security blanket. maybe he knows you are not in love with him anymore and that would be obvious that ure using him, , and thats why he says you’re annoying him. i think maybe you are confused about what you want. i think he should leave you, at first i would have said you leave him, but after i read what you said, it sounds like he should be the one who makes you leave or he should leave you. . and ure marriage has nothing to do with him putting his life on the line for this country. don’t try to use that one! you dont even love him anymore. why dont you just move on and quit whining about how he says ure annoying. Good luck.

]]> By: cougar http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-524 cougar Wed, 26 Aug 2009 11:41:59 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-524 He is shutting you out of his life. This is not a marriage when one person thinks only about themself. Ignore him for awhile and get some hobbies or a life of your own and then he will be asking you how was your day. He is shutting you out of his life. This is not a marriage when one person thinks only about themself. Ignore him for awhile and get some hobbies or a life of your own and then he will be asking you how was your day.

]]> By: something fishy http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-523 something fishy Sun, 23 Aug 2009 04:14:47 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-523 OK Sweetheart, He's in the Army...think about it he has to answer to a lot of people through out the day and he may be a little tired when he come home to the answer, question session you're drilling him with. He may feel the pressure to hold down the fort...$$$..wise for both of you since you do not have a job. I think you need to step up to the plate and work on your relationship. Since he is at work all day is there anything you could do for him that might switch up the conversation....guys do love the house smelling great ..(DINNER COOKING)...after a hard days work...so put a little thought into it...maybe he thinks you need to do more to help...and you 2 need to talk...ask him...what he likes about your relationship and what he doesn't and you let him know your ideas...you're young you're married and you need to work through your problems as a couple, OK Sweetheart, He’s in the Army…think about it he has to answer to a lot of people through out the day and he may be a little tired when he come home to the answer, question session you’re drilling him with. He may feel the pressure to hold down the fort…$$$..wise for both of you since you do not have a job. I think you need to step up to the plate and work on your relationship. Since he is at work all day is there anything you could do for him that might switch up the conversation….guys do love the house smelling great ..(DINNER COOKING)…after a hard days work…so put a little thought into it…maybe he thinks you need to do more to help…and you 2 need to talk…ask him…what he likes about your relationship and what he doesn’t and you let him know your ideas…you’re young you’re married and you need to work through your problems as a couple,

]]> By: kenneth h http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-522 kenneth h Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:16:24 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-522 don't talk to him for a while. See if that is less annoying for him don’t talk to him for a while. See if that is less annoying for him

]]> By: Jane Marple http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-521 Jane Marple Wed, 19 Aug 2009 11:34:07 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-521 How about you go spend some time in your family. Maybe being apart will do him some good...or it will give you some answers about what you want for your future. I was 15 years with a man in the Army I know all about that security blanket, like you I never thought I could do without it but I did it. In fact I did better once outside of that world. So that is my advice: You have a sister living on the other side of the country? you have a mother living a couple of hours away? pack some stuff and take a break to come back with a decision. How about you go spend some time in your family. Maybe being apart will do him some good…or it will give you some answers about what you want for your future. I was 15 years with a man in the Army I know all about that security blanket, like you I never thought I could do without it but I did it. In fact I did better once outside of that world. So that is my advice: You have a sister living on the other side of the country? you have a mother living a couple of hours away? pack some stuff and take a break to come back with a decision.

]]> By: Cliff R http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-520 Cliff R Sun, 16 Aug 2009 21:09:26 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-520 Have you two really sat down and talked about this issue. He may not realize that he is doing it to you. It may be that he is stressed about work or money or whatever and when you say something, he responds out of kind instead of thinking about things. But if you have not communicated your irritation to him then he may be completely oblivious to your feelings. If that does not seem plausible, then perhaps and this is even more difficult it sounds like, you may need to seek some counseling together to help both of you work through the problem. The military does offer several places to go, Mental Health clinic, Chaplain or sometimes the Legal Office. Good luck Have you two really sat down and talked about this issue. He may not realize that he is doing it to you. It may be that he is stressed about work or money or whatever and when you say something, he responds out of kind instead of thinking about things. But if you have not communicated your irritation to him then he may be completely oblivious to your feelings. If that does not seem plausible, then perhaps and this is even more difficult it sounds like, you may need to seek some counseling together to help both of you work through the problem. The military does offer several places to go, Mental Health clinic, Chaplain or sometimes the Legal Office.
Good luck

]]> By: Chrystal http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-519 Chrystal Sun, 16 Aug 2009 18:06:34 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-519 I'm really sorry for what you are going through, but regardless of the fact that you love him, you don't deserve this amount of neglect. SO, get yourself a job, start saving up and start standing up for what you to make you happy.. I’m really sorry for what you are going through, but regardless of the fact that you love him, you don’t deserve this amount of neglect. SO, get yourself a job, start saving up and start standing up for what you to make you happy..

]]> By: Wisen Smart http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-518 Wisen Smart Sun, 16 Aug 2009 18:01:11 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-518 You are not guilty, yet you are willing to serve jail time. Are you listening to yourself? Why would you put up with such neglect and emotional abuse. Slavery was abolished a long time ago. You are free to go and get yourself a job and not be a slave to his cruel abusive behavior. Stop loving that creature and start loving yourself. You are not guilty, yet you are willing to serve jail time. Are you listening to yourself? Why would you put up with such neglect and emotional abuse. Slavery was abolished a long time ago. You are free to go and get yourself a job and not be a slave to his cruel abusive behavior. Stop loving that creature and start loving yourself.

]]> By: Live4Me http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-517 Live4Me Fri, 14 Aug 2009 13:59:04 +0000 http://armyblanket.com/blog/my-husband-always-tells-me-that-i-annoy-himwhat-should-i-do/#comment-517 When he tells you that you are annoying him... you need to take a stand. Ask him "Who the hell do you think I am? I am your wife...an equal. Just because you go out everyday and congregate with your peers doesn't get you off the hook of being a husband at home. The next time you want dinner or some extra attention don't look to me because I am busy too trying to find a way to support myself if this is how it is gonna." If that is how it is gonna be than you are goin to have to take the plunge and find a way to support yourself. You should work on your marriage and not give up so easily but at the sametime you can not do it alone. I am sorry you have to put up with an ungrateful jerk but you can not live like that for the rest of your life either. You are human and deserve attention and love and respect. When he tells you that you are annoying him… you need to take a stand. Ask him “Who the hell do you think I am? I am your wife…an equal. Just because you go out everyday and congregate with your peers doesn’t get you off the hook of being a husband at home. The next time you want dinner or some extra attention don’t look to me because I am busy too trying to find a way to support myself if this is how it is gonna.” If that is how it is gonna be than you are goin to have to take the plunge and find a way to support yourself.
You should work on your marriage and not give up so easily but at the sametime you can not do it alone. I am sorry you have to put up with an ungrateful jerk but you can not live like that for the rest of your life either. You are human and deserve attention and love and respect.

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